Upbringing of Children

Most parent/s have no idea how to bring up their own children. Some bring up their children like puppets, at a single command they are expected to obey. Some bring up their children without any discipline. The parent/s are controlled by the children. Children are also individuals like the grownups. They also have egos that can be hurt and that can be boosted.

The children are the responsibility of parent/s till they are old enough to look after themselves. The parents should be their first role model to prepare them to face this beautiful/ugly world (depends on the outlook).

But it is also true that the parent/s have only one life to live and that they should live their life according to how they want and the kids in no way should dictate how they live their life if they are emotionally and physically provided for. This applies to the parent/s too. The children should be allowed to live their life, marry whoever they want, follow any religion and only give advise when asked unless if they don't advise the outcome will be fatal. The children should be taught to think for themselves. In short parent/s and children should be best friends. If this is the case the world would be a wonderful place to live.

Age 1- 10 is the time when special attention should be given to the character formation of the child. The parent/s should realize that what they are bringing up are not pets but citizens who will shape the future of our country, our society. So they should be shaped to be an asset to the society and not a liability or as anti-social elements.

If a child passes in all tests but if he fails in test of life it will be a great disaster and the parents are to be entirely blamed for it but if a child passes in the test of life it may or not be to the parent/s credit.
If we give more time and love to our children and bring them up in a proper way, a lot of violence from this world will vanish. It is not the amount of time that you give your children that matters but the quality of the time you give them even if it is not very much.


Alcholic Father and Sons

Once upon time an alcoholic man had two sons. The man used to come home drunk every night and beat up his wife and children.

The children grew up, the younger son grew up to be an alcoholic and a criminal. In Jail he blamed his father for ruining his life. “If I had a good father instead of an abusive one I might have been a better man today, he ruined my life from the beginning” he said.

The elder son studied well and became a great lawyer. He was teetotaler, he married and had a great family life.

When someone asked his motivating force “My father” he replied. “I saw how badly he behaved with his family and now he degraded himself after drinking so I made up my mind that I will never be like him, that I will never drink or abuse my wife or children”