Thursday, October 9, 2008
How Long Does One Success Last?
How long does one success last? Of course, till the next failure. The thumb rule is not to be affected by your success or failures. Learn from your failures and become a success at the next attempt. Do not not be vain when you are a success. The people who puts up with your tantrums when you are a success knows very well to put you down too when you are a failure. Just be a good human being at all times.
Daily Motivator
The mail I enjoy reading everyday is from an ex colleague who sends the daily motivators. http://greatday.com/motivate/. Anybody who wants to begin your day on a positive note can visit the site and get the daily motivators. Hats off to Ralph Marston who writes the motivators.
Experience
Experience is the best teacher. We learn a lot from our experiences. But, do we need to experience everything to learn? Can't we learn from the experiences of others? A very bad experience I had and I do not want others to experience is the pain when we break the bone.
How do we know what are the things worth the experience and what are best avoided? Do our upbringing and circumstances play a role in helping us decide what we should experience and what is best avoided?
How do we know what are the things worth the experience and what are best avoided? Do our upbringing and circumstances play a role in helping us decide what we should experience and what is best avoided?
What Really Matters
In our day to day life we do a lot of things, we meet a number of people, we undergo a number of emotions. Many times we wonder if our life is taking the right direction.
Many times we realise that we are not happy with how things turned out for us or how things
turned out in our relationships.
How do we make things work for us? How do we be happy at the end of the day? By doing things that really matters and being with people who really matters.
How do we know what really matters and who really matters?
If you are a person who wants to give back to society, you can take hints from the following
story:
Once there was a very powerful king. He had many wise people as his ministers. He was a very wise and learned person himself. Once his son asked him three questions.
1) What is the most important time in my life?
2) Who is the most important person in my life?
3) What is the most important work in my life?
The King thought for a long time but he could not find the answers. He asked all his learned
ministers. None of their replies satisfied him. He announced a fortune for anyone who could give him satisfactory answers to the questions. Still, he could not get satisfactory answers.
One of his ministers told him that there was a very learned hermit who lived in the jungle nearby. So he went to meet the hermit.
On the way he was attacked by a rival king. As he was not prepared for the attack he got badly hurt. The hermit who heard the noise found the wounded king and nursed him back to health. The king got better and he came to know that the person who had saved him is the hermit who he had come to ask the questions.
He thanked the hermit and asked him the three questions.
The hermit smiled at him and said. "Well son, the most important time in your life is now or the present. You cannot change your past or you do not know what your future has for you. So now is the most important time. Use it well. The most important person in your life is the person you are with at the moment. You do not know if you will be alive to be with somebody else and the most important work in your life is to do good to the person you are with at the moment."
Many times we realise that we are not happy with how things turned out for us or how things
turned out in our relationships.
How do we make things work for us? How do we be happy at the end of the day? By doing things that really matters and being with people who really matters.
How do we know what really matters and who really matters?
If you are a person who wants to give back to society, you can take hints from the following
story:
Once there was a very powerful king. He had many wise people as his ministers. He was a very wise and learned person himself. Once his son asked him three questions.
1) What is the most important time in my life?
2) Who is the most important person in my life?
3) What is the most important work in my life?
The King thought for a long time but he could not find the answers. He asked all his learned
ministers. None of their replies satisfied him. He announced a fortune for anyone who could give him satisfactory answers to the questions. Still, he could not get satisfactory answers.
One of his ministers told him that there was a very learned hermit who lived in the jungle nearby. So he went to meet the hermit.
On the way he was attacked by a rival king. As he was not prepared for the attack he got badly hurt. The hermit who heard the noise found the wounded king and nursed him back to health. The king got better and he came to know that the person who had saved him is the hermit who he had come to ask the questions.
He thanked the hermit and asked him the three questions.
The hermit smiled at him and said. "Well son, the most important time in your life is now or the present. You cannot change your past or you do not know what your future has for you. So now is the most important time. Use it well. The most important person in your life is the person you are with at the moment. You do not know if you will be alive to be with somebody else and the most important work in your life is to do good to the person you are with at the moment."
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Accident and the Lessons
A few days back while returning home from office, I happened to witness an accident on the road between a Honda Civic car and a 220CC Pulsar. The Pulsar guy fell on the road and was not willing to get up in spite of the passersby helping him. I suppose nothing serious happened other than a few bruises. The Civic guy was more concerned with his car and instead of helping the fallen Pulsar guy he was examining his car for damages and shouting at him for riding the bike rashly.
I remembered the accident I had almost an year back, which was a lot more serious than this one. I was riding pillion on the bike. We were going fast I suppose and at a junction a Tata Sumo coming faster than us from the right hit us. Nothing happened to my friend who was riding the bike. I suffered multiple fractures on my right leg. I have a rod and four screws in my right leg that the doctors then said can be taken out after two years.
The accident did the following things to me:
I remembered the accident I had almost an year back, which was a lot more serious than this one. I was riding pillion on the bike. We were going fast I suppose and at a junction a Tata Sumo coming faster than us from the right hit us. Nothing happened to my friend who was riding the bike. I suffered multiple fractures on my right leg. I have a rod and four screws in my right leg that the doctors then said can be taken out after two years.
The accident did the following things to me:
- A very active person like me was forced to lead a sedentary life.
- Even to go 100 metres I use my scooty PEP+ , as walking is very painful.
- For the first time in my life I remember being completely dependent on others for the first fifteen days after the accident.
- I am afraid to use my car as I think it will be difficult to put the brake and accelerator with my right leg.
- Going for treks and aerobics that I used to do before the accident now remains a distant dream.
- I started counting my blessings. At least I could take the rod out after two years. I did not have to amputate my leg.
- I became more optimistic. I still remember the first time I walked without support after the accident. It was a big victory for me. Now, after a year, people seeing me walk will not realise I have a rod in my leg.
My accident made me put together the following safety rules on the road that I mention to first time drivers/riders and people who ride rashly:
- Always go slow at junctions.
- Never turn the road into a race course.
- Do not take unnecessary ego hassles on the road.
- Be cool and level headed once you take the drivers/riders seat.
- Speed thrills but kills.
- Better late to reach the destination late than reach the destination never due to rash driving.
- Lane driving is sane driving.
- Always horn before overtaking.
- If you want to go left and there is a vehicle in front of you do not overtake the vehicle and go left because the vehicle in front might be going straight. I have seen a lot of accidents take place because of this.
- If there is a bigger speeding vehicle behind you, give side and let it pass.
- Never sit in the drivers seat if you consumed alcohol or allow anybody who is drunk to drive.
- Use the indicators for turns and even if you want to change the lane.
- Concentrate on the road while driving.
- Use the rear view mirror to check vehicles behind.
- Know your vehicle well and the braking time required for your vehicle.
- Keep proper distance from the vehicle in front and also from the vehicle at the side while overtaking.
If these rules are followed almost all accidents can be prevented. Even if somebody else is driving rashly you can follow these rules and save yourself. Remember that there are people who want to see you alive. At least for their sake drive safe.